Today was one of those days to take care of unfinished business. One of those days that does not occur too often because of the pace we all seem to have to keep up with in our daily lives, but for me I was left with a, what I refer to as, “a change of pace day.” Now you are probably wondering how did I manage that?? Honestly I am not sure, maybe I somehow premeditated that my desk was accumulating 2 years worth of “stuff” I had been meaning to look through and as I placed one more piece of paper on my desk 4 pieces of paper fell off my desk! Or maybe it was because Jim, my husband, who is usually home on Fridays, had to take care of some family business. When Jim is home I don’t allow myself to get lost in projects that take me away from being with him, we tend to enjoy doing things together when we can. In any event I feel fortunate to be able to work from home as well as to be able to have a bit of control over choosing to have one of these days where I can attend to unfinished business.
Of course you can imagine when any one of us begins to look through 2 years worth of stuff (no I wasn’t kidding when I said 2 years) there are many reminders . All sorts of occasions, happenings, events, people, dates come across your mind and you begin to relate and associate these things to many other things and before you know it you are recalling many of your life’s memories and when you recall, you connect the plans, the experiences, the many ongoing appointments seasons of your life on and on… I found myself remembering how I had come to conclusions or decisions and it hit me like a ton of bricks that while I am currently helping others with in their lives in terms of coaching, supporting, mentoring as it relates to business, friends and most importantly my own sons and that is I always tell people to follow your heart and that when you speak to always be heartfelt. You see this has always been beneficial to me and I believe and have faith in the fact that it can be beneficial to all.
Follow Your Heart And Have Faith To Make The Right Choices
Most times when I am able to have a heart to heart conversation with someone I have a pretty good connection with where they are in their lives and what they may need more of in their lives. None of us escapes those days when we wonder if it is all worth it? Am I moving in the right direction? Am I with the right person, do I have the right job? Am I happy? The questions are necessary as we move on in our journey. It is the journey that matters and I often feel and convey to others that it is the day to day happenings that matter, stop and smell the roses, wonder and ask so that you are able to reconnect with where you are and where you are going. I will share with all of you reading this that I believe in order to remain true to yourselves you must follow your heart and have faith in the fact that this will allow you to make the right choices for yourself.
Let me share with you why I have such a conviction about this… For me several times in my life I experienced situations that caused me to be uneasy and was not quite sure of which way to go or how to move forward. The circumstances for me will obviously be very different than for anyone because naturally we all are writing our own stories and not one of us are the same. Obvious, but worth stating. For me there were many, but the most life altering will be the ones I share.
I attended college in the 70’s and for those of you who remember, it was not the time to enter the teaching profession. So here I am young, energetic in love with children and the idea of changing lives, helping them through one of the most significant phases in their lives, “their education”. I always wanted to be a teacher, not too many of us know what they want to do but I knew from when I was a child myself, and I would play school with the kids in the neighborhood and of course I was the teacher even then and I planned even at a young age that I would attend college and be a teacher. As I referred to in the 70’s there was not much of an attraction for studying to be a teacher because there were so may lay offs and people were losing their jobs. And here I am, my Junior year and everyone is saying that I should change my plans, I should not become a teacher, I would never get a job. You can imagine how that effected me … It was a black cloud for a while but I continued forward. Even as a young woman with the odds against me I was determined that it would somehow be different. I had the faith to follow my heart and I graduated from Lesley University with a job as a Instructional Aide that led into a full time teaching job the next year “Boom”!! Thrilled beyond words!! As I continued in the teaching field I decided to extend my degree and took a course at Northeastern University to earn a degree for secondary education. I wanted to teach math and did so for a few years. Loved being able to demystify math for my students and teach them what they needed to know to be successful.
Follow Your Heart In a Relationship
While doing so I was introduced to Jim (my now husband of 34 years)! To say it was love at first site would be a lie! It wasn’t but that is another blog that I promise to share. It was DISLIKE at first site!! That obviously changed but the course of events were challenging to say the least and I was once again faced with a situation that caused me to search my soul and follow my heart and I again was THRILLED. I mean how many couples have been married for 32 ears and still happy. Not only do I love him with all my heart but I still like him with all my heart… Our lives has been fun and easy every bit of the way we have enjoyed and supported each other. But come back to read the events leading up to it You will agree that we were a very unlikely couple and many people predicted we would not last together.
Follow Your Heart When You Start A Family
The last situation I will share with you where following my heart came into play was the day I decided to have children. As it is today, in the 80’s when our sons were born, people told me that I was crazy to have kids, they said why would you want to bring children into this world?? I thought it terrible that people felt that way I knew in my heart that I would bring our children up our way, I would stay home and raise them with values, traditions, and qualities that they would need to survive, all the while teaching them right from wrong . I knew in my heart and I had faith in the fact that Jim and I would raise our sons to be solid, stable, wonderful human beings, irregardless of what was going on around us. Once again I am THRILLED to say our two sons are amazing individuals. I have always had an awareness that my sons would be my little boys for a brief amount of time and as I raised them I wanted them to trust their hearts, not just my heart and so I would say to them, “follow your heart“, pay attention to what makes you happy, be aware of what you feel in your heart” You see I always did that, I always followed my heart and I know that because of it I prevailed and because of that my sons, my friends, my husband, myself will continue to thrive and be happy because if your heart leads your way and you are always heartfelt with your intentions you will end up where you are meant to be and survive what you need to, to get to the end of your journey…
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Til the next time we are together on paper,
Be well,
Lisa Monica
