How Do You Deal With A Narcissist In Your Family!
Narcissistic personality disorder is a mental disorder in which people have an inflated sense of their own importance and a deep need for admiration. Those with narcissistic personality disorder believe that they’re superior to others and have little regard for other people’s feelings.
First off, I would like to put the typical narcissist into perspective.
They are the ones you see driving down the highway up your butt and then pass you without concern about others doing 80 mph without a blinker and then weaves in and out as if THEY OWNED THE ROAD! They are the ones who will cut in front of you when there is only a 1/2 a car length of space and look at you as if you did something wrong. These are the ones who feel ENTITLED and above the law because it doesn’t apply to them. These are the everyday happenings you see and think to yourself, what a idiot. Who do they think they are! After your silent fit of rage you finally get off the highway, get into work or home and forget about what happened during those stressful times on the highway. Well, think about this, what if you had to deal with one of these arrogant, self centered, cocky, manipulative, selflessness, egotistical narcissists in your own family?
How Do You Deal With A Narcissist In Your Family!
We’ve all heard the phrase, one bad apple spoils the whole bunch but never did I personally expect it you be such a conflict in my own family (well, my wife’s family). In the beginning as you’re getting to know someone, you always want to be on your best behavior. You notice how they act and react to yourself as well as others. I noticed that there was one person in my wife’s family who was ALWAYS right, knew everything, was better than anyone, could do no wrong and seemed to be a hero in his parents eyes!
I will admit, in the beginning I was intimidated. Could someone like that exist? I mean, he knew everything (so I thought), he had an answer for everything and even though he wasn’t always right, everyone thought he was because of his arrogance.
It infuriated me to think that someone could actually think he was the BEST at everything he did and pretty much demeaned everyone he knew by showing them they were inferior than him.
So, fast forward many years later he and his submissive wife came to dinner one Christmas Eve and he stared an argument that lead to them storming out of our home because of something we decided to do that wasn’t in his plan. Well here it is 7 years later and just very recently even at my age I’ve realized something. I’m happy, and him, well he’ll always be who he is. Just another miserable, self centered, egotistical bastard on this earth.
So, if I can indulge in saying if you are in this situation and there is someone in your life like this, don’t do what I did. Don’t feed into his web of misery and lies. These people are all salesmen, luring you in and disrupting your life. Look at yourself and what you have and what you’ve achieved in your life not theirs.
I know when I look at my successes, my failures, my wife, my children and who we are that I wouldn’t give it up for all the money he has, all the toys he has and all the lies he tells because I’m happy with who I am and what I have in my life. Please remember, a true narcissist has no conscientious, no remorse and no regard for anyone but himself so don’t try to change them because you can’t. Instead, embrace yourself and know you will always be better than them.
So the next time you see a face like you see here just realize, you are the better one, you are the happy one.
Family is important! Don’t let anyone take that away from you. Disown it, erase it, and be done with it before it destroys you.
I wish you a happy and peaceful future and the next time someone cuts you off on the highway remember, you’re better than that.
Jim Sama
